In my last post “So Many Subjects, So Little Time” http://www.hearttohearttalks.com/Blog/?p=485 I provided some recent examples of societal rot that work against parents’ efforts to instill biblical virtue in their children. Indeed there is certainly much to critique about American pop culture and its broad negative influence. So when a faint positive spark appears I want to help fan it into flame.
The March 25th, 2013 cover story of People magazine was titled: “Waiting for Our Wedding Night.” It featured a couple who became engaged “on air” after following the program format of the reality TV show Bachelor. The latest bachelor, Sean Lowe, chose contestant Catherine Giudici to be his bride.
I have never watched Bachelor, and I don’t subscribe to People. But the cover story caught my attention while I was waiting in the grocery store checkout line. My first reaction to the cover headline? Amusement that saving sex for marriage is now such a novel concept it’s a “hook” to sell fluffy magazines. I mused that the story inside probably offered feeble respect for the couple’s principled decision, followed by plenty of skepticism, naysaying, and even a suggestion of sexual inadequacy as the *real reason* they were foregoing pre-marital intercourse.
Well, I bought the magazine for um, research purposes . . . and I was pleasantly surprised to see that the interviewer presented the couple’s unvarnished responses to her thoughtful questions. Sean Lowe, age 29, is described in the story’s introduction as a conservative Christian who became a “born-again virgin” after indulging in sexual sin during college. He explained that he was “tired of being selfish.” Catherine is honoring his desire to consummate their relationship on their wedding night. The story doesn’t mention anything about her faith background though, so sexual temptation may be difficult to resist if the couple does not share Christ-centered values. Hey, temptation is hard to resist even for couples who do!
My one disappointment with the story was that the abstinence-related portion of the interview was quite short: fewer than 2oo words. In fact only 3 of the 21 questions had to do with the headline hook on the mag’s cover. And the responses were probably heavily edited to meet the story’s word limit.
But role models are hard to find in pop culture, and this couple deserves kudos for their decision. I pray that God will bless them with the strength to stick to it and draw them to Himself for a long, happy, equally-yoked marriage.