We’re officially at the midpoint of this series. For continuity’s sake, before we move onto the second half let’s quickly review the first 5 reasons to do sex-ed at home:
1. Because you CAN . . . successfully. Kids want you to do it/secular studies prove it.
2. Because God said so . . . in familiar Scriptures such as these: Deuteronomy 6:6-7 and Proverbs 22:6
3. Because parents know their own children better than anyone else.
4. Because you’ll help your kids avoid confusing, mixed or immoral messages in school sex-ed programs.
5. Because you can teach & supervise appropriate use of digital/internet technology and protect children from sexting, predators, porn sites/porn spam, cyberbullying etc.
And now, Reason #6 . . . drum roll please:
Because you can teach your kids to discern the wheat from the chaff in popular culture. . . and counter misinformation, false & immoral messages, poor role models and shallow priorities in ads, movies, music and online media.
It’s an understatement to say our kids are surrounded by a culture far more sex-saturated than that of my childhood. Most American families find it virtually impossible to avoid prematurely exposing young children to provocative messages . . . even within our homes. But this is nothing new . . . 21st century culture is just a digitally-enhanced version of ancient Babylon, Sodom & Gomorrah or Rome. . . our “sensuality delivery systems” are simply more varied & efficient.
As Christian parents we can wring our hands in frustration & despair or we can fight the spiritual battle with the strategies of Deuteronomy 6:6-7 coupled with an axiom often attributed to heavyweight prizefighter Jack Dempsey: “The best defense is a good offense.” This two-pronged approach involves building a fortification of layered, age-appropriate, accurate biological facts intertwined with biblical virtue “early & often” at home. . . and then going on offense to point out, discuss, and counter false & immoral cultural messages with biblical truth. . . especially during the preteen years and up. . . and we should elicit our children’s observations about modern culture to make it a dialogue not a lecture.
When the Superbowl treats our families to half-time shows featuring gyrating, scantily clad singers & “wardrobe malfunctions” do we hurriedly shut the TV and sit in embarrassed silence? What about the proliferation of Superbowl commercials and background billboards for Viagra, Victoria’s Secret and GoDaddy . . . some of these were also broadcast during the 2014 Winter Olympics. Have you ridden a municipal bus or subway with kids lately and seen offensive ads/posters plastered above the seats? Have you noticed sexy animated sidebar ads bracketing your email messages and overwhelming every mainstream news website? Remember, a parent’s “no comment” equals approval in a kid’s mind. Pray for courage and clarity of thought, and say something . . .
To give you a little practice, I’ve embedded in this post a few images of cultural icons associated with questionable or mixed messages. What would you say to your children about 007’s promiscuity in every James Bond movie plot? What can we conclude about a culture that nominates Keeping up with the Kardashians for a TEEN Choice reality show award? Misty May-Treanor & Kerri Walsh won Olympic gold for the USA in beach volleyball . . . but did they have to play nearly naked to be successful? How important is it to have “Big Sexy Hair”, and can a shampoo really guarantee these results?”
Get ready to gather your thoughts in 3…2…1