Love Notes

Best I love LindaAs I have asserted in various posts through the years, a home-based sex education needs to convey a clear-eyed, biblical understanding of love.  During our child-rearing years, my husband and I found that we had to work hard at nurturing our marriage relationship amidst the chaos . . . um, I mean BUSYNESS of daily life.  We believed the best gift we could give our children is parents who deeply love each other.  In order to be good role models at home to our girls, we displayed PDA often and tried to keep arguments rare and quickly resolved.  We planned a once-a-month date (whether we needed it or not 🙂 ) and struggled most with carving out a few moments together for daily prayer and communication beyond “So how was your day?”

Now that our nest is empty–sniffle–and we’re closing in on 35 years of marriage, we can still role-model to our adult daughters (from afar) how mutual Christlike love and commitment keep growing “for better, for worse” through this stage of life.  Maybe they’ll even read this post. 🙂

It’s usually the little things that contribute to and flow from lifelong devotion.   My husband is retired from his engineering job, so there are no longer “brown bag lunches” into which I can slip occasional love notes, but creative substitutes abound:  When I was backing out of the garage yesterday to go grocery shopping, I saw that my husband had etched” I *heart* Linda with a propane torch(!) in the massive snowbank beside the driveway.  This whimsical surprise made my day.   I stopped the car, jumped out and etched a similar well-chilled message for him with a small piece of styrofoam. . .a less risky writing tool.   (The pictures are a bit dark. Click on them to enlarge and see the snowy messages.)

Best I love BobWhile our 3-1/2 decades of marriage may seem impressive to some folks, it’s nothing compared to the 82 years Duranord and Jeanne Veillard have been wed.  They attribute the love and longevity of their marriage to God, and they still engage in PDA despite substantial mobility limitations.  The link below goes to their inspiring story.  It reminds me that even we role-models benefit from role-models.  Upon recognizing we’ve been married less than HALF the time of the Veillards, my husband quipped, “We still have a ‘few’ years to go . . .”

Husband, 108, wife, 105, celebrate 82 years married

 

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6 Responses to Love Notes

  1. Holly Simons says:

    It’s always wise and uplifting to remember that our marital commitment and frequent expressions of love and loyalty continue to impact our children, grandchildren and others well past our actual years of child-rearing. Thank you for this encouragement and your “snowy” expressions of love!

  2. Linda says:

    I appreciate your affirming words Holly, and I know you & your husband share & role-model PDA to your growing family as well. One plus about the empty nest years is that we have time to think up more creative “love notes” 🙂

  3. omd says:

    Well color me stupid. What is PDA. I only know Personal Digital Assistant. But let that go… I am happy for you two as 35 years is a long time.

  4. I’m grateful your shared the excellent example of a godly marriage Linda. The divorce epidemic is continuing to grow. All of my siblings who are married, have experienced the things you shared about long lasting love. My oldest sister is coming up on 45+ years with her husband. I’m glad to bear witness to the impact Christ has had on you and your husband marriage and you experience, strength and hope will help a lot of others.

  5. Linda says:

    Hi Walter. Thank you for your kind comments, and welcome to my blog! 🙂

  6. Linda says:

    Hi OMD . . . no you’re NOT stupid . . . in this texting digital age new acronyms appear everyday, and it’s hard to keep up! PDA in a social context means “public display of affection” Surprise your wife with some today 😀

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