You’ve probably already started seeing them . . . the ads and movie trailers hyping the upcoming film based on the best-selling pornographic novel 50 Shades of Grey. Yep, it’s scheduled for release next month, February 13 . . . just in time for Valentine’s Day, because nothing says tender love and romance like bondage, domination and sadomasochistic sex (BDSM).
Couples can watch the movie on opening day and buy whatever torture devices they need to recreate their favorite scenes on February 14th and beyond . . . mutual consent makes it all okay, of course. No “War on Women” here, right? No emotional or sexual abuse; no rape or degradation . . . just adult “fun.”
When the book first came out in 2012 I blogged about it (in less sardonic prose) in a post entitled: 50 Shades of Dorian Gray http://www.hearttohearttalks.com/Blog/?p=449 Now that it’s a motion picture though, the ubiquitous slick ads/trailers are more likely to capture the attention and curiosity of teenagers than the book’s release did. What will you tell your teen son or daughter about the activities portrayed in the film’s promotional media? How will your children respond if their non-Christian friends (and yes, even some Christian friends) brag about seeing the flick or exploring BDSM online? Now is the time to be talking with your kids about eschewing the twisted ideas peddled by the 50 Shades craze, and reinforcing the true love of 1 Corinthians 13 that enriches marital sex as God intended.
Not sure where to start the conversation? Check out the “Parent Survival Guide to Fifty Shades of Grey,” a multi-part series of excellent blog posts by Dr. Miriam Grossman: http://www.miriamgrossmanmd.com/blog/
She combines clinical expertise and unvarnished truth-telling about the harm BDSM inflicts on both women and men. Parents will gain clear cut talking points to share with their teens . . . and possibly with other Christian adults . . . sadly, many believers—especially women—contributed to the erotic novel’s best-seller status. According to the Barna Research Group, 19% of American adults who read the book are practicing Christians.