“Because I said so!” How many of us recall those words from an exasperated parent during our formative years? I do. Mom or Dad would tell me to complete an undesirable task (cut the grass, clean my room, dry the dishes) and my pre-compliant response was, “Why?” In my childish sin nature I wasn’t really seeking a rational motivation for doing the task . . . I was simply stalling, resisting or hoping to avoid it altogether. And if my parents initially attempted to answer my “why” with a logical explanation, I always had a counterargument to delay my compliance and eventually prompt those discussion-ending four words: “Because I said so!”
God has His own version of “Because I said so!” But unlike my beleaguered parents, God was not speaking out of frustration when He gave us clear instructions for raising our children according to His moral laws . . . He told us what, not why; He does not owe us an explanation. This brings us to reason #2 for conducting sex education at home: Because God said so . . . in familiar Scriptures such as these:
These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. (Deuteronomy 6:6-7)
Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it. (Proverbs 22:6)
Clearly God expects His people to teach their children His moral laws . . . including the laws governing His gift of sex. And those laws aren’t all “Thou shalt nots” . . . there are plenty of positive commands about marital love and sex that contribute to fulfilling intimacy. It takes time—about 18 years’ worth—to instill the myriad biblical standards in our children in age-appropriate layers before they leave the nest.
Certainly homeschooling families can readily integrate this daily holistic character training. And I am not suggesting that non-homeschooling Christian parents keep their children away from reproductive biology classes in school; the point is that God intends the moral context for sexuality—and everything else—to be taught within the family. Keep in mind that many institutional sex-ed programs—especially in public schools— promote sinful behavior (more about that in a future post). Thus Christian parents must be vigilant, informed and ready to counter ungodly messages when the kids get home. For some families it may be wiser to “opt out” their children from these lessons than to be constantly doing damage control.
Occasionally God does reference a reward for obeying His commands or a consequence for disobeying them. However, our compliance should flow from the knowledge that our loving Creator’s laws are for our benefit. He deserves our unswerving trust and provides everything we need to carry out sex education at home.
Trust and obey, for there’s no other way
To be happy in Jesus, but to trust and obey.
Sammis & Towner, 1887